In my family, my mother and her sisters have always been their own little club. Weddings? There they were sitting at a table in the corner laughing harder than anyone in the room. Large family parties? They say their ‘hellos,’ yet they’d each gradually gravitate toward each other, like planets coming into sync with the sun, or, in their case, a bond they share. All four of them are on their own orbit, having gone their own ways, living their own separate lives, yet this sun keeps them within each other’s range at all times – never faltering, always burning brighter.
I remember being a little girl and wanting nothing more than to be a part of this not-so-secret society. I would sit next to my father and watch the four of them practically blind the crowd with their smiles. All I wanted was to know what was behind those smiles, what inside jokes are shared with only a glance. I would prepare comments and hold onto them, waiting for the right moment to say them to see if I could get a laugh, and gradually, I did, without even trying.
The past two summers, I’ve had the opportunity to stay with my aunt Titi in her New York City apartment. I consider this my side internship. She has not only been rigorously training me to enter the Gutierrez clan, but also, as the eldest daughter in my family, to continue the legacy of the sisterhood. My two little sisters will look to me as the beacon of hope for the future development of our faction. It is all on my shoulders. If I fail, a bond as strong as the sun will die with me and the disappointment of future generations will permeate the ozone causing mass destruction on the planet. No pressure!
Finally, my quiz day has come. After all of the instruction I have received from my aunt, it all comes down to one important question. If I get it wrong, it will be all for naught. The almighty question? What is the most important message of the sisterhood? I thought for a moment about this seemingly daunting question. How could I possibly break down all of the different components of the bond, but then I had a moment of clarity. The answer is simple, something I’ve always known. The sisterhood, you ask? Well, each sister is different, and this must be remembered as there will be moments where the bond is tested, but these differences are blessings and allow each sister to bring something unique and beautiful to the table. The sisterhood requires that each member always has the back of all other sisters no matter the time, no matter the place. Sisters will make fun of each other and no one is safe from a little bit of ridicule, but the sisterhood demands that no sister is left behind and most importantly, to be in the sisterhood, you must enjoy every second of it.